Children everywhere are raised to believe in absolutes. There are right ways and wrong ways of doing everything. This is understandable, as you have to start somewhere. However, with age quite often comes experience and a wider view of the world reveals multiple methods to achieve the same results. The value of one over another exposed as merely opinion. Yet, as with all things, some are convinced their opinions are better than others and canât abide even the existence of a contrary thought.
Recently, my wife who has assumed the role of editor-in-chief of my books has been aggravated over the mystery of English grammar. This is a woman who graduated valedictorian of her high school, graduated in the top 3% of her engineering college class, and worked her way from grunt to president of an international corporation by the age of twenty-eight. Still, commas baffle her. Having an analytical, scientific mind, she wants everything to make senseâŚconsistently. Math is her friend, grammar is more of a stand-offish acquaintance.
Math and I hate each other. Always have. We avoid each other as much as possible. Growing up, teachers and parents insisted I would need math no matter what I chose to do with my life. I proved them all wrong. Math is that disagreeable bastard I only speak to in proxy. âHoney, tell Math I hate him. Oh yeah, and find out how much money I made this month on book sales.â The idea that I needed to memorize all the tables that Math proudly admitted went on to infinity, was insane. But, like most early relationships, it was the Big Lie that broke us up. When after years of telling me you canât subtract a larger number from a smaller one, Math admitted you could. What else was Math lying about? I could never trust him again and it was time to move on.
I never cared much for English either. The idea that I would have to memorize the spelling of every single word in the language, while not as crazy as the infinity-challenge of Math, it was still too daunting a task to seriously consider. Sure, teachers promised you could use rules like i before e to take the guesswork out, but just like Math, it was all a con. The rules never worked.
Art never asked me to memorize anything. He had no rules so he couldnât lie. Art made no demands and just wanted to please. I hung out with Art, cause Art was cool. Art was the guy who never went to class, who smoked pot and talked about multiple universes while laying on the grass in torn jeans watching the clouds roll by. He wasnât the kind you wanted your parents to see you hanging out with. âWhy donât you hang out with Math and English more? Theyâre nice. Youâll never amount to anything if you keep associating with that Art.â
Thing was, I did have this crush on English. Once I got over the âbooks have cooties stage,â I fell in love. I wouldnât admit it at school, but I secretly wrote stories. I knew I didnât have a chanceânot with English. Talk about aiming too high. She was unfathomable and fickle, but I tried anyway. The thing is, I learned she wasnât as stuck-up, or straight-laced as everyone said. Turned out, when I got her alone, she was a lot more like Art than Math. It was only when she was out with people. People that expected her to be so buttoned-down and perfect all the time that she froze up. Thatâs when I realized the problem.
Perception.
I remember an old Barney Miller episode where an English aficionado was distressed by the degradation of the English language by advertising. He freaked at ads with words like âflavorosity!â and âscrumptiousnessity!â He railed against the affront with all the fervor of a high priest faced with blasphemy. At the time, I thought it was funny.
In the early eighties, an English major I worked with was beside herself when she saw the word âglitzâ in the newspaper. âIt isnât a word!â she screamed as if in pain, and ranted for days on the subject, which somehow bled through to the fall of society as we know it. Of course nowadays, glitz is a word. So is muggle, even though my Word spell check disagrees for now.
Living languages, grow. They change.
The word for the tops of multiple buildings used to be written, rooves, just like hooves. Sometime ago that changed to roofs. Why? Because that is how the majority of people preferred it and used it.
Thatâs the thing about language. It isnât Math. It isnât Science. There is no singular authority on the subject. Many people and organizations attempt to declare themselves such, or point to references they feel are absolute, but in reality, the English language has no rules. Latin does, because Latin is dead, but as long as English is alive, any practitioner of the language is an authority on it. Anyone can invent a word, or alter the grammar to suit themselves, and if it proves sound to the general users, it will become chiseled into the framework. Shakespeare is cited as having invented at least 1,700 words and phrases and he was only a lowly playwright not a college professor, Prime Minister of Language, or even the king. Thatâs what it means to be a living language.
And yet, there are always Grammar Nazis who insist that all writing in English must conform to a set of highly arcane rules that read like a different language in themselves.
âCommon introductory phrases that should be followed by a comma include participial and infinitive phrases, absolute phrases, nonessential appositive phrases, and long prepositional phrases (over four words).â
Stereo installation instructions are easier to follow.
This is why it isnât unusual to find self-accredited authorities on the subject who disagree with one another. Perhaps the most famous being whether or not to place a comma before the âandâ in a list. (I frequently leave out the âandâ altogether in protest.) But put any two editors in a room, propose a question, and youâll likely get three answers.
This is what drives my editor/wife insane. She hangs out with Math. She likes an ordered world where the rules never change (letâs not talk about negative numbers, I still have flashbacks.) She feels certain that there must be an answer to all this confusion. If only she was smarter. If only she studied the sacred tomes of Englishosity more she could find the holy grail of comma usage and this would let her sleep at night.
My opinion is different.
Language, like Art, is communication. As long as I get my point across clearly, concisely, consistently, and with as little confusion as possibleâitâs good. The rest is pretentious fascismâwhich, of course, is why I donât edit my own books. Did I mention I hung out with Art in school?
(While researching the proper usage of the term Grammar Nazi–which apparently I did not coin–I found this. Be advised, while funny, it contains strong language.)